I’ve always been “the nice guy.” I hold doors for people, I return shopping carts to where they need to go, I return money when I’m given too much change, I point out if I’m not charged enough for what I’m buying, I don’t curse, and whenever possible/reasonable, I’ll try to sacrifice my comfort for the sake of … Continue reading Embracing My Anger
Category: Masculinity
Star Wars: The Feminine Menace
The Rise of Skywalker is out, finally bringing the latest Star Wars trilogy to a close. Episodes 7, 8, and 9 have been epic, funny, sweet, sad, charming, and always hella fun. But after watching The Rise of Skywalker, I kept thinking about it and, in the process, finding myself liking it less and less. As I thought … Continue reading Star Wars: The Feminine Menace
Happy Birthday, Jackie Chan: A Look at His Career
It’s #AsianApril and Jackie Chan’s 65th birthday! I actually wrote out a whole giant Twitter thread about this to celebrate it all as an alternative to writing this article. But just as I clicked “Send,” it all disappeared. So, here I am. Back on my blog. Trying to not feel frustrated and just keep moving … Continue reading Happy Birthday, Jackie Chan: A Look at His Career
Father and Son III: The Final Chapter in the Poetic Trilogy
What a journey these poems have taken me through. What started as a single poem turned into an unexpected trilogy that somehow provides the closure the first poem needed all along. If you haven't already, you might want to read (or re-read!) the first two parts, since they follow a chronological order: Part 1 and Part 2. Thank … Continue reading Father and Son III: The Final Chapter in the Poetic Trilogy
Father and Son 2: A Poetic Sequel for the #MeToo Era
After writing the first Father and Son poem, I got some great feedback from friends and soon realized I still had more to say. Thus, Father and Son 2 was born. In the first poem, the father takes his time to reply and try to show his son a beautiful way to live his life. It's kind … Continue reading Father and Son 2: A Poetic Sequel for the #MeToo Era
Time for Men to Unite Against a Common Enemy
Men! Dudes! Bros! Countrymen! Dude-Bros! Bro…dudes… Tired of women having to tell you how they’re “feeling" all the time? Sick of being told that your comments hurt someone’s “feelings?” Done having to be PC because people’s “feelings” are being offended? Are you constantly putting the word “feelings” in air quotes because you just can’t even? … Continue reading Time for Men to Unite Against a Common Enemy
Father and Son: A Poem for the #MeToo Era
First of all, I don't like calling it a "MeToo Era," because it feels like I'm saying that it's a brand new thing that suddenly's been happening. Like men haven't been the perpetrators of horrific sexual crimes for thousands of years. But I couldn't think of a better title for this post, so here we … Continue reading Father and Son: A Poem for the #MeToo Era
Into the Badlands: Where a Chinese Man is Finally Free to Be Just Another Man
AMC’s new show Into the Badlands premiered this past Sunday and man, what an opening! I’ve written before about how I’ve seen the Chinese martial arts cinema aesthetics travel to Hollywood, particularly through the success of The Matrix, and it’s very exciting to see it coming to the small screen too! I’ve also written about Inseparable, … Continue reading Into the Badlands: Where a Chinese Man is Finally Free to Be Just Another Man
This Started Out as a Post About GamerGate
This started out as a post about GamerGate. (If you haven’t heard about GamerGate, just Google it.) I don’t have anything new to add to the “Which side is right?” or “What is GamerGate really about?” debates. My thoughts go elsewhere… A child points to a green bowl and says it’s red. He’s adamant about … Continue reading This Started Out as a Post About GamerGate